by David Eshleman | Jul 21, 2023 | Shame & Criticism, Suffering
As Robert Bly said, the antidote to shame is to get closer to the wildman or wildwoman inside us. To grow up in a shame family, where the value taught was to be afraid, to be put down, less than, is in itself a wounding. Shame can be felt, verbalized, modelled...
by David Eshleman | Jul 21, 2023 | Parental Wounds, Shame & Criticism, Suffering
If you are depressed, beat down, numb, addicted, or carry a wound from the past, you are likely in touch with a great deal of suffering. Chances are you are searching for a way away from the suffering that you are carrying. Ironically, the counter intuitive approach...
by David Eshleman | Jul 21, 2023 | Social Media
We live in a culture of instant gratification, getting likes, attention and validation immediately. Our mammalian brains constantly seek to move closer to pleasure, validation and excitement, and away from pain, isolation and boredom. The constant comparison and...
by David Eshleman | Jul 18, 2023 | Anxiety & Stress, Exploring Life, Identity & Culture, Religion, Spirituality, Values
Did you grow up in a fundamental, or cult like “church” or environment? Maybe you’re still in the church, or maybe you are an ex-fundie seeking redemption and healing from what you are beginning to realize was a traumatic or spiritually wounding...
by David Eshleman | Jul 17, 2023 | Anxiety & Stress, Fear Moving Forward
We’ve all felt it, worry and fear over making a change in our lives. Whether it is taking a step forward in a long time relationship, career change, or stepping away from something that has been a large part of our lives, there is a great deal of courage...
